I car pool with this one girl who bugs the crap out of me. I feel bad because she doesn't exactly have social skills, so she can't make other friends. I am nice to her, but I try to drop the hint that she is very annoying. The worst part is, I don't even know why I bother being nice to her because she is one of the meanest people I know. What do I do?
— Anonymous
We think that you have done everything you can in this situation. It sounds like your car pool mate has issues that are causing her to have real problems making connections with other people, which is really sad for her, but absolutely not your responsibility. It's great that you tried to be kind toward this girl, but at this point, her lack of social skills is her problem to solve, not yours. There isn't much more you can do but pat yourself on the back for your efforts and hope that she gets the help she needs to become a better person.
You also mentioned that she's one of the meanest people you know, so if her behavior toward you is unkind, you don't have to tolerate that. Let her know that you don't like it in no uncertain terms, and if she continues to be nasty, maybe it's time to find a new, nicer person to buddy up with in the car pool lane.
—Andrea Pyros
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