You might need to ask yourself why it's so important for you to be friends with her. Is it because she's popular or hangs out with a crowd you really like? If so, that probably isn't enough of a reason to pursue a friendship. On the other hand, there may be qualities about this person that you truly like and admire. Do you share common interests and like to do the same things? If you want to be friends with her because you like who she is, then you might want to try pulling back a bit. Some people (and this girl could be one of them) prefer to be the initiator in a friendship, or want the time to let a friendship develop slowly. Give her some space and see what happens.

If she still doesn't respond, you may have to accept the fact that she does not want a close friendship with you. Sure, she says you're one of her best friends, but ignoring you isn't the way a good friend should treat you. Feeling rejected by someone you consider a special friend is hard. But spending time with your other friends, meeting new people, and taking part in the activities you love will help you feel less bummed. In time, you might even question what it was about her that seemed so special to you in the first place.

—Kate Forest, MSW