I wouldn't worry about your infatuation with this guy you met on vacation. You've probably also had a huge crush on someone like Josh Jackson before, and I bet you got over that one, too — after wallpapering your room in his image. In fact, by the time you read this, you'll probably be halfway towards getting over your vacation boy. Infatuations are temporary obsessions during which our minds are filled with thoughts of someone else. Healthy infatuations center on fond memories and fantasies of what might have been. They're only a problem if you become obsessed to the point of not being able to think about anything else, even for a few minutes, like school, friends, that cute guy you like to eye in your science class; if you never date anyone else; or if your thoughts turn consistently to unhealthy themes like violence and jealousy.

But this isn't a Lifetime movie, and you don't need to be all freaked out because you're thinking about someone you barely know. It can be fun, and it's way more interesting than studying for finals. You're being realistic in acknowledging that you can't contact him and probably will never see him again. In fact, that was probably part of the allure when you two met. It sounds like you had an excellent vacation, got to meet a really nice guy, and have some cool stories to tell your friends. To top it off, you proved that you're confident enough to be able to go out there and meet and attract cool boys.

— Kate Forest, MSW