Okay, so I've been dating my boyfriend for eight months. I love him sooo much, and sometimes I like to talk about the future. But every time I bring it up he changes the subject. I feel like that means he doesn't think we have much of a future together. But eight months is a long time and we're in love (at least I am and he says he is, too). What do I do?
—Kaylee, 16, Ohio
What kind of future are you talking about? After all, that can mean anything from next weekend to "where should we live when we retire?" It's totally reasonable to make plans for spring break or to ask him to go with you to your grandma's 80th birthday party. If he won't schedule anything further than 20 minutes from now, though, we can see why you would be worried. But we're assuming that when you say you bring up the future, you mean "The Future," like long-term plans. We can see why your boyfriend might get a little freaked by those kinds of talks!
Sure, eight months is a long time to be dating, but on the other hand, you're only 16, so why the big rush to map out your lives? If your boyfriend says he loves you, no doubt he does, but maybe he's not thinking much past the present, or at the most, what he'll do when he graduates from high school. Our suggestion: Take one day at a time, enjoy being with your guy, and try not to worry too much about what might happen down the road. Otherwise, you could wind up missing out on all the fun and good times you should be having now!
—Andrea Pyros
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