I was at this dance, and the guy I have a huge crush on was there, too. He knows I like him, but he has a girlfriend. She wasn't there, though, so he started holding my hand and brushing his fingers up against mine when no one else was looking. Then he asked me if I wanted to go get a soda. I said yes even though I had a hunch he meant something completely different. Next thing I know, for the first time in my life, a guy is trying to make out with me! I pulled away from him and said "We really shouldn't be doing this" and ran off. Later he said "I'm sorry, I made a mistake." It's been about a week now and whenever we talk it's friendly but not anything more and he isn't showing any signs of breaking up with his girlfriend! I still really like him, but I don't know what to do.
—Completely Confused
It's no surprise you're confused! This guy was sending you totally annoying mixed messages. The thing is, what he did wasn't cool — which you realized right away and is why you left instead of sticking around and being a party to his infidelity. Good for you, especially since he was being so attentive and flirty, which is tough for anyone to resist. It's hard to know what his motivation was. He could have been looking for a fling, or was flattered that you liked him and wanted some extra attention. At least he realized he was being a sleaze and apologized to you.
As for next steps? Time to move on. You said it doesn't look like he's about to break up with his girlfriend, right? No sense in wasting time on it. After all, there are other great guys out there who are sweet, smart, cute, eligible, and will be interested in only you!
—Andrea Pyros
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